My 21-year-old self was obsessed with stuff. I had more possessions than any 20 something should and the credit card debt to match it. I lived in a big three-bedroom apartment, had nice furniture, multiple flat screen TV’s, a relatively new SUV, and designer accessories.
I had a full-time job with a steady income, so what’s the big deal? Why not buy a bunch of stuff? That’s why we work right?
It pains me to look back and think about all my careless spending and how big of a hole I was putting myself in.
At 24, I went through a pretty dramatic breakup and that is when things began to shift. It was almost as if a weight had been lifted and my priorities dramatically changed in that moment. I don’t blame my former partner for the way I was, it was 100% me, but it is an interesting coincidence none the less. It was a major turning point for me, all for the better.
I took two years living the single life. I paid off so much debt and started feeling grateful for everything that I currently had in my life. I could have cared less about nice things, all I wanted was to feel the freedom from the debt I was carrying around my neck.
Today, I am SO grateful to have gone through that process. I would not be here in this position if it was not for the change of direction. There would be no way that I could afford leaving my job to freelance if I still had payments up to my eyeballs and felt the need to buy more THINGS. It was hard work and the sacrifices were real, but I had my eye on bigger and better things.
I love the life that I have and all the items in it! It’s a rare occasion that I feel the need to buy new things and spend my hard earned money on things that just don’t matter. I’d rather use it for experiences, like traveling somewhere or simply going out to a new restaurant.
To me, contentment means to be genuinely happy and at peace with the way your life looks right now. Your relationships, how you spend your time, your home and everything in it. If anything is out of whack, contentment can be hard to come by and you may try to fill the void with things.
The stuff you own doesn’t impress people. When you buy things you can’t afford, you are only hurting yourself and your future. Think about what you are grateful for and start evaluating whether your day to day actions are in line with your values. It’s a starting point to something beautiful.
Contentment gave me freedom and there is no object that could ever take its place.
“The happiest people don’t have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything.”
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