Let me begin this by saying I am no relationship expert. Not by a long shot. I have been in a couple terrible relationships and one or two good ones that have taught me what I do and don’t want and that’s all I know. No judgment here if you are not into marriage, this is solely my opinion about this experience.
I just got married about 2 months ago and began the process of combining our lives. We have lived together for 3 years before we got married, but now I’ve changed my name to his and we pooled all of our finances together. Whew, talk about next steps.
In the last couple months, I have changed my name on all the billion different things I have out in the world. I’m not done yet, but all the major things are taken care of. We’ve also combined our bank accounts so we can begin to budget and tackle financial goals together.
I’ve married into student loans. AHHHHH
We have a great plan in place to get rid of them as fast as possible, but it will be a process. I’ve been in this situation before so it’s just time to focus on it all over again.
I personally think that combining your lives after marriage is an important thing. You are a team and should act as one. Together we can do so much more than we can do on our own. We have some big goals and it’s very exciting making progress with someone who wants to accomplish the same things. Every day we are accountable to each other, which really helps when making decisions that will directly affect our end goals. I can really appreciate that!
Before the big day, a lot of people told me that marriage doesn’t change anything in your relationship. Other people told me that this would be the hardest thing I will ever do. I’d imagine that there is SOME truth to both of those statements, but I am going to come to my own conclusion on that one.
So far, marriage has been a wonderful thing. I’m thankful that I got to marry my best friend and that he’s willing (and HAPPY) to go on this crazy life journey with me.
Planning and experiencing the wedding itself was probably one of the most stressful, emotional, and fulfilling experiences we both have ever had. The day was perfect in every way and I wouldn’t have changed a thing about it.
“A wedding is more than a party, it’s about the beautiful union created now and into the future.”
Thanks for Reading,